“I love you. I am who I am because of you. You are every reason, every hope, and every dream I've ever had, and no matter what happens to us in the future, everyday we are together is the greatest day of my life. I will always be yours.” - Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
Every woman who saw that movie may never forget when Noah said this to his love Allie. Isn’t it amazing that out of all the millions of people in the world, we are able to find that special someone who was meant to be? That despite all the different roads we take, we eventually find the path that leads to that ONE person?
Modern technology has brought interesting new ways of meeting people; even those who are miles away from us. Getting to know someone is literally at the palm of our hands, with the help of our smartphones.
The question arises...Is this true love?
Not too long ago, group of Indiana University conducted amodern love experiment. Researchers placed electrodes on undergrad volunteers' faces and feet, asked them to name their current romantic companion or crush, then led them through a simulated exercise in which they told that special someone how they felt, both over email and in a voicemail message.
The researchers hypothesized that their millennial subjects would flush with emotion while articulating their feelings out loud, but effectively disconnect when typing them out online.
They presumed that speaking, even into an answering machine, just feels more natural, rich, exciting and even arousing than typing does.
The results were quite alarming.
The subjects who sent romantic emails were more emotionally aroused and used stronger and more thoughtful language than those who left voicemails, Indiana Universityannounced in a press release after the study. Previous scholarship had suggested that “email and other text communications don’t really work very well,” researcher Alan Dennis said who believes that his subjects, many of whom were born after AOL brought email to the mass population, are evidence that humans have successfully “adapted” to this new romantic environment.
While finding love is changing, there are things that the ancients knew about love that remain the same.
According to the ancient Vedic texts, there are chakras that serve as energy centers along the spine. The fourth chakra is at the center of the seven most talked about chakras with three below and three above. This is said to be the area where physical and spiritual meet. The fourth chakra is also referred to as the heart chakra since it’s exact location at the center of the chest and includes the heart (amongst other organs such as the thymus gland, lungs, and breasts) plus rules the lymphatic system. The Sanskrit word for this chakra is Anahata, which literally means “unhurt.” In this way, even beyond the hurt and grievances of life experiences, there is a purity and place where no hurt exists within the area of your heart.
It is felt that when your heart chakra is open, you are flowing with love, warmth and compassion, you are quick to forgive, and you accept others and yourself.
Rose Quartz is a stone that is closely connected to the Heart Chakra as it energizes while simultaneously calms and soothes our emotions. It opens the heart to compassion, raises our self-esteem, balances our emotions, lowers stress and brings inner peace. These enhance our positive self-affirmations to allow unconditional love to seep in.
It’s why it is known as the stone of Unconditional Love.
Love is an abstract concept.
“Poets often describe love as an emotion that we can't control, one that overwhelms logic and common sense. That's what it was like for me. I didn't plan on falling in love with you, and I doubt if you planned on falling in love with me. But once we met, it was clear that neither of us could control what was happening to us. We fell in love, despite our differences, and once we did, something rare and beautiful was created. For me, love like that has happened only once, and that's why every minute we spent together has been seared in my memory. I'll never forget a single moment of it.” -Nicholas Sparks, The Notebook
Despite the way love defies logic, one thing is for certain, true love knows no bounds, has no restraints and or exceptions.
We live in a borderless world, so let’s practice borderless love.
"I declare that the heart's release by sympathetic joy has the sphere of infinite consciousness for its excellence."
Is there a particular outcome, opportunity, or material thing you really want in this moment?
Do you hold on to expectations of how certain people around you should behave and treat you?
And do you have high expectations of yourself?